Happy Valentine’s Day! This has always been one of my favorite holidays, single, dating, and married. (No, I’m not kidding) As an ENFJ, I usually go overboard, as with most holidays and birthdays, and we celebrate with pancakes with strawberries cut into hearts, sugar cookies, chocolate, and heart-shaped homemade pizza with plenty leftover to give to our family and friends. The trick is to make Valentine’s Day a day where you don’t wonder how much others love you, but you show how much you love others. How? Why not start with the ultimate “love” letter? (Note: Can’t think of anyone? Feeling down in the dumps? Write a letter for yourself! My Valentine’s gift to you. <3) INSTRUCTIONS: 1 - Invite (gently) your other person to take the MBTIIf they refuse, that’s totally fine, it won’t hamper your ability to move forward. Optional: Watch the designated Encouragement video for your spouse on my YouTube channel here. It won’t take longer than a minute and a half, promise. 2 - Write down your other person’s strengths and what you love about them.Do they give the perfect hugs? Does their smile brighten your day? Do they keep you grounded? Do they geek out with you over a shared interest? Do they put up with you geeking out over an unshared interest? ;) 3 - Thank them for five things they did that day that you appreciatedDid they do anything above and beyond the norm? Is the norm what helps you get through your day? Did they make the bed or let you pick the movie? Did they look nice that day? 4 - Offer something from yourselfNon-material gifts can mean a lot. Are you going to take care of a chore usually reserved for your other person? Are you going to spend an entire day saying nothing but compliments to them? Sing to them, write to them, make something for them. It doesn’t matter if it’s actually good, just that it’s from you. 5 - Say the “L” wordThe most important part of any love letter is actually telling the person “I love you.” Say it in your letter, then say it in person. If they don’t believe you, look them in the eyes, think about how incredible this person is, every detail, and say it again. People can sense sincerity. Mean it from the tip of your toes to the last hair on your head. When we make Valentine’s Day a day of giving instead of receiving, we change the entire paradigm of the holiday into something a little less lonely and a little more unifying. What’s the best Valentine’s Day you remember? How can you make the day amazing for others?
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Anyone who’s ever drawn breath has had a bad day. Days when nothing seems to go right and the odds seem to be stacked against you. Days when you just want to curl up in bed and ignore everything while you sink into the abysses of your favorite Netflix binge show. Days when every little frustration sticks to every other little frustration until you don’t know whether you want to scream or cry or both. You aren’t alone. We’ve been there, too. So here’s a five-step bad day survival guide AND an epicly easy recipe to get you back on your feet.
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AuthorRegan Guerra is a Personality Geek. As an ENFJ 4w3, she dreams big, wanting to build a ranch where others can rediscover themselves and learn to reimagine life the way it's supposed to be. Archives
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